Once a week, ask your child one question and just listen. Below you’ll find how to start, the ground rules that keep kids talking, and questions you can use tonight.
How it works
- Pick a time. Same day each week works best, like a Sunday drive or Wednesday dinner.
- Ask one question. Choose from the list below, or ask the 180 Coach for a personalized suggestion.
- Let them answer their way, in person, in a note, or by text, whichever feels most comfortable.
- Listen first. Thank them for sharing. Save advice for later, and only if they want it.
- Follow up. Mention what they shared later in the week so they know you heard them.
Ground rules for parents
- No lectures during a check-in. This is their time to talk.
- No punishment for honesty. If something needs addressing, handle it calmly at a separate time.
- It's okay if they pass. Try again next week.
- Keep what they share private unless their safety is at risk.
Check-in questions to get you started
- What was the best part of your week? What was the hardest?
- Who have you been spending time with lately? What do you like about them?
- Is there anything you wish I understood better about your life right now?
- What's something you're looking forward to?
- If you could change one thing about our home, what would it be?
- Is anything stressing you out at school?
- What's one thing I could do to make this week easier for you?
- What's something you're proud of that I might not know about?
If your child shares something serious
Stay calm, thank them for trusting you, and don't try to solve everything in the moment. If they mention thoughts of self-harm, abuse, or being in danger, get help right away: call or text 988, or call 911 in an emergency.
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If your child is in crisis or talking about harming themselves, call or text 988 (Suicide & Crisis Lifeline) any time, day or night. In an emergency, call 911. Bold180 offers parenting guidance and support. It is not a substitute for medical or mental health care.